12. Happiness | 31 Days

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Sara Groves’s 2009 record, Fireflies and Songs, has a song called Different Kinds of Happy. I loved it the first time I heard it. It’s about the difference in happiness between her wedding day and the moment, years later, coming out of marriage counseling knowing that they were going make it.

“It’s a sweet, sweet thing

Standing here with you and nothing to hide

Light shining down to our very inside

Sharing our secrets, bearing our souls

Helping each other come clean”

Sara Groves, Different Kinds of Happy

I’m not married so I can’t relate completely but I love it anyway cause I do believe there are various degrees of happiness all around our lives.

There’s the happiness of listening your nephews tell you the cool thing they just did.

There’s the happiness of playing a board game with your family.

There’s the happiness of a good book and a quiet evening.

It’s not complex or complicated. It’s the simple and steady. And the serendipitous and all-consuming.

There’s the happiness of coming out of extreme pain and knowing you’re going to be just fine.

There’s the happiness of a first date and then, a year later, the happiness of a familiar hug.

And like she talks about in the song, there’s happiness of being honest and real with someone and feeling secure in their love and transparency. you can’t get to that place in a day or two or even one or two years.

Happiness comes in all shapes, sizes, and colors. But I think that the deeper moments of happiness come after the challenging times when you can look back and see how far you’ve come and look ahead and see how far you get to go. Deeper challenges, deeper experiences, can make for deeper happiness afterward.

Sure, happiness is finding a piece of chocolate at the bottom of your purse when you’re late getting lunch but it’s also looking at your kid brother after you’ve had a fight and knowing that no matter what, he’s still got your back.

I think back to what made me happy 10 years ago. Man. While many of the same things still make me happy, experience has shown me a different kind of happiness that I couldn’t have anticipated. You just can’t until you’ve come through. And 10 years from now, I’ll think the exact same thing. There are different kinds of happy that you can see in your life now. There are different kinds of happy and sometimes only a later you will fully understand. 

I wish those two could see us now

They never would believe that there are different kinds of happy”

Sara Groves, Different Kinds of Happy

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