I remember being in the thick of a college term and thinking, I cannot WAIT until this is over and I can get on with my life! Now college is over and there are days when I think Oh my goodness, I wish I was back in college!!
I used to spend days dreaming about all the stuff I’d do with the time that would no longer be taken up by school assignments, exams, and discussion forums. I was tired of hustling and not having time to do all the things I wanted to do.
Well I’ve learned two things since graduating:
- hustling has it’s place and it’s seasons.
- don’t dream your life away.
Okay, so my mother has been telling me not to dream my life away for years. And she doesn’t mean don’t dream at all. She usually says it when I’m wishing for things I don’t have and forgetting the important things right in front of me that need to be taken care of.
And that’s the thing about dreams. Dreams can be a form of escape or they can be a method of motivation and dreamers are either escapists or chasers. An escapist dreams a lot but doesn’t really do much with those dreams. They don’t take time to plan action steps to make those dreams come true. Chasers are action takers. They are motivated to hustle and do what they have to do to make their dreams a reality.
I’m a roller coaster dreamer — sometimes I’m an escapist and sometimes I’m a chaser. Sometimes I live vicariously through my future self (it’s weird but it happens) and then sometimes I’m a really good chaser of my goals. So much so that I forget to take care of everything else around me. I zero in on that one goal and my tunnel vision robs me of my balance and responsibility.
The challenge is to find the sweet spot. Granted, there are times when you have to buckle down and just get things done. But if you’re head is constantly down, nose to the grindstone, you miss the beauty around you. But if you’re head is up in the puffy clouds of a daydream, you miss just as much. There has to be a place in between. A place of contentment and peace. A place where you pursue excellence while also giving yourself time and space to enjoy what already is. Otherwise, you’ll look back and wonder what happened while you were escaping and chasing.
I’d much rather be a chaser then an escapist but I also want to be reasonable and balanced. I haven’t found that sweet spot and I think it’s something that everyone has to fight to maintain. But I think it’s a good thing. The struggle forces us to constantly evaluate what is truly important in life and give us perspective on whether or not our dreams are really worth chasing or if they’re just a happy place we drift of to while dinner’s cooking.
And you know, I suppose there’s room for both.