Can You Be Trusted Now? | Virtues for the Single Woman

Last week I wrote 12 Virtues for the Single Woman from Proverbs 31. I had these grandiose plans for an inspiring 12-week blog series that would go through each of those virtues one by one. But somehow it just didn’t feel right. So I thought I’d take it easy, not force it and just write what was on my heart about these topics without any particular order or time constraints.

We’ll see what happens. So far, I’ll just say that Tuesday is will be my slot for Single Virtue.

With that, let’s talk about trust.

SINGLE VIRTUE Trust.1

When I think about what it takes to be a virtuous woman, now as an unmarried woman and later if I’m ever a married woman, I’m a bit overwhelmed by the huge responsibility. And I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that I so do not line up with what’s in those verses, or what’s on my 12 virtues list, for that matter.  And I’ve heard it said that it’s not about following the list–and I sort of agree with that.

Sort of.

I don’t think that God looks at women and requires each of us to have a life that mirrors the one in Proverbs 31. But I think that what she had is absolutely attainable. I think it’s more about principle–that’s why I wrote that list of 12 key areas of virtue.

God wants our lives to mirror His character and when you look at the verses in Proverbs 31, you see attributes of God. Attributes of faithfulness, selflessness, love, compassion, purpose, wisdom, humility, joy, contentment, etc.  These are the things we grow to love in our Heavenly Father and He wishes that we follow after the same pattern.

What does that have to do with trust? Well, verse 11 says,

“The heart of her husband safely trusts her; 

So he will have no lack of gain.”  

Proverbs 31:11

In order to be a trustworthy woman, I have to first place my trust in the only safe place there is: Jesus Christ. The heart of the husband of a Proverbs 31 woman can safely trust her because she has given him reason to. She has proven that she can be trusted to live a life that is pleasing to God and what God-fearing man wouldn’t see the treasure in that? 

Because her life is propelled by love, she does as 1 Corinthians 13 says: “[She] suffers long and is kind; [she] does not envy; [she] does not parade [herself], is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek [her] own, [she’s] not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (verses 4-7, love replaced by she). She has developed a character that her husband can fully trust his life with. This happens in varying degrees across different relationships but the takeaway is the same: How is your season of singleness impacting your future season of marriage? Can you be trusted now? 

Because you don’t all of a sudden become trustworthy at some random time.

Are you building your various relationships on mutual trust?  Can your classmates depend on you to hold up your end of a group project?  Can your coworkers trust that you’re going to pull your weight and finish tasks on time?  Can your friends count on your honest opinion?  Can your family members trust that you’ll keep family matters inside the home?  Can you be trusted to make smart decisions? It’s how you live your single years that determines the health of your future marriage and family. No matter how long a season of singleness lasts–a few years or for a lifetime–being a trustworthy woman is something that is needed regardless of where you are or where you’re planning on going.

Consider your life and honestly ask yourself if you truly trust God with your life. And not just bits and pieces– you’re whole entire life. Ask Him to cultivate in you a complete trust in Him as well as a trustworthiness that others can safely count on.

-Elyssa 

Monday Morning Gifts

It’s Monday morning, y’all!

This is so not the post I planned on writing but I was grappling with a school assignment last night till the wee hours of the morning so that kind of threw a kink in my plans. But! I have determined to blog on Monday mornings and I will do just that.

There are gray skies overhead in my neck of the world but, surprisingly, despite my lack of sleep, I’m feeling more energetic today than I’ve felt in many a Monday AM. So I thought I’d give you some presents and spread some Monday cheer :).  We all need some inspiration and motivation to get us going, yeah?

First, a song.

Okay, another song cause I couldn’t choose!

Second, one of my favorite passages in the Bible.

“To whom then will you liken Me,
Or to whom shall I be equal?” says the Holy One.

Lift up your eyes on high,
And see who has created these things,
Who brings out their host by number;
He calls them all by name,
By the greatness of His might
And the strength of His power;
Not one is missing.

Why do you say, O Jacob,
And speak, O Israel:
“My way is hidden from the LORD,
And my just claim is passed over by my God”?

Have you not known?
Have you not heard?
The everlasting God, the LORD,
The Creator of the ends of the earth,
Neither faints nor is weary.
His understanding is unsearchable.

He gives power to the weak,
And to those who have no might He increases strength.

Even the youths shall faint and be weary,
And the young men shall utterly fall,

But those who wait on the LORD
Shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.

Isaiah 40:25-31

I looooove these verses cause they remind me of the greatness of God and His watch care over me.  He gives strength to the weak and they will not grow weary.  Thank You, Jesus!! 🙂

Third, a resource.

I’m really trying to change my sleep schedule and be early to bed, early to rise.

(That way, these Monday morning posts will be for real in the morning, like at 6 or 7!)

Late nights are such a hard habit to break but I’m determined to get it together.

Last week, I found this really great podcast that I’ve been listening to and it’s giving me another push toward my goal of a better sleep routine and increased productivity. So far I reeeeeally like it so you might want to check it out too!

It’s called the 5 AM Miracle hosted by Jeff Sanders and you can find it HERE on his website or subscribe in iTunes, Stitcher or where ever you listen to podcasts.  Check it out and let me know what you think!


I don’t know what you’re facing this week, but one thing I can guarantee you: God’s got your back.  Whatever you’re dealing with, whatever obstacles your facing, whatever circumstances feel overwhelming, He’s got you and He will not fail you.  Give it all to Him and rest assured He will lead you through.

Have a blessed week, y’all!

Elyssa

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