I love personality tests. I love answering the questions and then reading the descriptions about the different types. There’s something satisfying about reading about the quirks and functions of your personality in black and white. Sometimes you find truth that you weren’t even aware of.
In the past, I’ve kind of haphazardly identified with a type here and another type there. But then, a couple of weeks ago, I really started considering things like my working style and whether or not I’m truly an extrovert or an introvert or somewhere in the middle. I thought about how I process information, what makes me tick and why and how I react to different situations. It’s weird to admit that I haven’t truly examined myself, because it would seem that I should know myself pretty well by now, but it’s true–I haven’t taken the time to really examine myself. I know this because I don’t know how to answer personality test questions sometimes. I know this cause I had to ask other people to tell me about my behavior. For real, I do that? I always considered myself to be fairly self aware but lately, I’ve realized how much I haven’t been paying enough attention. I have strengths that I need to capitalize on and weaknesses that are quite childish and need to be worked on.
I believe that a good healthy self awareness is one of the things that separates the men from the boys and the women from the girls. Think about the immature adults you know. When you try to gently point out a weakness you perceive in them, they don’t want to hear it. Or when something doesn’t go as planned, they have a hard time adjusting. Or it’s never their fault. Or they’re inconsiderate of other people’s opinions and feelings. Or it’s their way or the highway. Or they never have a kind word to say cause they’re too busy gossiping about everybody else’s lives. Immaturity isn’t like skin you grow out of and shed; it’s something you have to intentionally work hard to overcome.
The truth is, we all have weaknesses and we all trip up and bump heads every once in awhile. But a healthy self-awareness is a necessity for healthy lifestyles and relationships. You can’t grow if you don’t know that you’re still clinging to childish parts of you. You can’t mature if you’re not willing to make changes.
I don’t think their’s ever an age where you “arrive”. I think every season comes with some kind of self discovery. But you have to start somewhere. You can’t let life happen to you, you have to go out and live life on purpose. And part of that living is knowing the quirks and functions of your personality. That knowledge gives you a place to work from, to relate from, to play from, and even to ask forgiveness from.
Oh yeah, I’m an ENFP. Like Carol Burnett. Ooooh and Meg Ryan. I’m independent and I crave creativity and freedom. I tend to overthink and I am easily stressed, and find it difficult to focus sometimes. I’m working on it. However, I do know how to relax and I’m a good communicator. I can work with that!
What are you? If you’ve never done it, take the test at 16 Personalities. It’s fun! You may be surprised at what you find 🙂