Last week I wrote 12 Virtues for the Single Woman from Proverbs 31. I had these grandiose plans for an inspiring 12-week blog series that would go through each of those virtues one by one. But somehow it just didn’t feel right. So I thought I’d take it easy, not force it and just write what was on my heart about these topics without any particular order or time constraints.
We’ll see what happens. So far, I’ll just say that Tuesday is will be my slot for Single Virtue.
With that, let’s talk about trust.
When I think about what it takes to be a virtuous woman, now as an unmarried woman and later if I’m ever a married woman, I’m a bit overwhelmed by the huge responsibility. And I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that I so do not line up with what’s in those verses, or what’s on my 12 virtues list, for that matter. And I’ve heard it said that it’s not about following the list–and I sort of agree with that.
I don’t think that God looks at women and requires each of us to have a life that mirrors the one in Proverbs 31. But I think that what she had is absolutely attainable. I think it’s more about principle–that’s why I wrote that list of 12 key areas of virtue.
God wants our lives to mirror His character and when you look at the verses in Proverbs 31, you see attributes of God. Attributes of faithfulness, selflessness, love, compassion, purpose, wisdom, humility, joy, contentment, etc. These are the things we grow to love in our Heavenly Father and He wishes that we follow after the same pattern.
What does that have to do with trust? Well, verse 11 says,
“The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.”
In order to be a trustworthy woman, I have to first place my trust in the only safe place there is: Jesus Christ. The heart of the husband of a Proverbs 31 woman can safely trust her because she has given him reason to. She has proven that she can be trusted to live a life that is pleasing to God and what God-fearing man wouldn’t see the treasure in that?
Because her life is propelled by love, she does as 1 Corinthians 13 says: “[She] suffers long and is kind; [she] does not envy; [she] does not parade [herself], is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek [her] own, [she’s] not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (verses 4-7, love replaced by she). She has developed a character that her husband can fully trust his life with. This happens in varying degrees across different relationships but the takeaway is the same: How is your season of singleness impacting your future season of marriage? Can you be trusted now?
Because you don’t all of a sudden become trustworthy at some random time.
Are you building your various relationships on mutual trust? Can your classmates depend on you to hold up your end of a group project? Can your coworkers trust that you’re going to pull your weight and finish tasks on time? Can your friends count on your honest opinion? Can your family members trust that you’ll keep family matters inside the home? Can you be trusted to make smart decisions? It’s how you live your single years that determines the health of your future marriage and family. No matter how long a season of singleness lasts–a few years or for a lifetime–being a trustworthy woman is something that is needed regardless of where you are or where you’re planning on going.
Consider your life and honestly ask yourself if you truly trust God with your life. And not just bits and pieces– you’re whole entire life. Ask Him to cultivate in you a complete trust in Him as well as a trustworthiness that others can safely count on.